This week is a very unique one indeed. My 19 month old has a week off of day care for Summer Vacation. What this really means is that mommy has a huge challenge in front of her. I am entering into an unfamiliar world. A world of being a stay at home mom. Although my journey will only last a week, I anticipate it will be a rough one with multiple challenges ahead of me. However, I also very optimistic. Probably a little too optimistic at this point. I have grand plans of activities, potty training, bonding and having tons of fun. Welcome To The Stay At Home Mom Experiment. Behind The Scenes.
Currently my wonderful little Morgan is sleeping. This might be my only free time today to get all of my thoughts out. She is an amazing baby, truly a blessing. She is fun and energetic and a super voracious eater. However since she was 6 months old there hasn’t been an extended period of time that she hasn’t been in day care.
Don’t get me wrong when she was born I envisioned becoming a stay at home mom. But due to our current living situation in Los Angeles, California (essentially one of the most expensive places to live in the US) neither I nor my husband can afford to become stay at home parents.
Tangent Warning: before I get a ton of comments about a few things, let me answer your questions up front. Yes I would move from L.A. in a heartbeat! It’s the only thing Austin and I argue about. My job can relocate to most of the US and he can find something in a minute with his background as a Software Engineer. However my husband is extremely stubborn and opposed to change. Don’t even get me started!
The other comment I would anticipate is why don’t you downsize and live a simpler life then you can afford to be a stay at home mom. Austin and I actually do, we currently rent back our 2 bedroom 1 bath home that we sold last year for literally $1000 under what a normal rental costs in Los Angeles – lucky situation.
We have zero debt (no student loans, car payments or credit card payments). We average about 3 times a week going out to eat, at reasonably priced restaurants, most of the time with coupons or deals. And we literally don’t do anything that isn’t free – beach, park etc. We live a very conservative minimalist life.
Currently all of our money is going to a house account so that we can move into a safer neighborhood in a good school district. Those homes are averaging roughly $800K-$900K. The sad part is they aren’t mansions or 3000sq feet they are modest 1400sq foot 3 bed, maybe 2 bath outdated homes. But this is our current reality so we must make it work.
Now that those questions are answered let me tell you about the experiment I am about to embark upon. I have an entire week that I have to entertain, feed, rock to sleep an amazing but feisty 19 month old. Oh and I am also currently 6 months pregnant, so my energy levels are quite depleted. However, as I mentioned before I am going into this with optimism. I anticipate that it will be hard but I am trying to see the potential fun in the stay at home mom experiment. Next week I will give you the outcome. That should be an interesting post!
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Here are my three goals for the week:
Number 1: Potty Training. Austin and I bought a potty training seat for Morgan last night. She instantly sat on it and seemed to enjoy it, however she did not actually use it. I am hoping this week I can begin to train her to like it and want to use it on her own. Morgan has been showing positive signs of potty training readiness for a while now. She tells us when she has to peep or poop and then she does it. She can remove her pants and slide them back on. Lastly she hates wet diapers and almost immediately asks for a new one.
After some comparison shopping we selected the Fisher-Price Custom Comfort Potty Training Seat. It is very easy to clean, comfortable for the child to use and is height adjustable. I will report back next week how our potty training adventures went!
Number 2: Entertainment. With the exception of today (Morgan has a pediatrician appointment) all of the other days in the week will need to include some sort of entertainment. I plan to take Morgan to an indoor play place a few times this week so she can get out all of her energy and socialize with other children. I also signed her up for a Music Class for toddlers on Wednesday, it’s basically a bunch of babies banging on drums – hopefully I don’t have a headache that day.
Morgan has also recently started loving a challenge. She loves to buckle and unbuckle things, match like items and figure out puzzles. So I bought her a few goodies for this week.
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Number 3: Errands (with distractions). I would love to run some errands while I am home this week. Hopefully I can accomplish these with Morgan in tow. The biggest errand that I am nervous about is laundry. Our laundry room is outside off of the garage which requires that I leave Morgan somewhere safe or bring her with me each time I go outside. I have yet to determine how I will conquer this challenge, especially since I only do laundry once a week meaning I have 4-5 loads in a day. We shall see.
I don’t do a ton of screen time with Morgan except for the occasional Peppa or Paw Patrol with dinner. But outside of the home we try to come up with different ways to entertain her. Our favorite distraction when running errands are Board Books – 100 Animals, 100 Words and Number, Colors and Shapes. Morgan loves reading these books over and over again. The best part is Board Book are easy to clean so I can take them anywhere.
Wish me luck with my Stay At Home Mom Experiment. I hope that my 3 goals of Potty Training, Entertainment and Errands with distractions works. If you have any pointers please let me know, I can probably use all the help I can get!